Fantastic article by author Sable Aradia. I’ve been enjoying a number of her blog posts. Here are a few quotes from the article; check it out in its entirety.
“Many Wiccans, in my opinion, seem to use the Rede as a way to rationalize keeping their hands, noses, and consciences clean. It strikes me as an excuse for cowardice, not as a genuine desire to not be “judgmental.”
I call it the Curse of Pagan Niceness. We are terrible at delineating clear boundaries. We want to be so accepting that we put up with all kinds of things we should not put up with. And we can make our community dangerous for the vulnerable because, in our efforts to not be confrontational or judgmental, we let abusive people get away with it.”
“We saw things that worried us, but after we talked to them about it, asked questions and counselled them, we trusted that the high priestess and high priest of the coven, our initiates, were dealing with the situation, and at the very least they had their eye on it and were counselling the family and looking out for the safety of the girls. We should have followed up and demanded to know what they were doing to intervene. I especially was trying to be nice in that I didn’t want to step on the high priestess’ toes and undermine her authority.
Look at what all this “niceness” wrought. A beautiful, intelligent young woman whom I greatly admire and respect was deeply harmed. Our tradition, who should have protected her, failed her utterly.”